the look that kills us...

       That size that every woman has to be. That look that every woman has to have. That supermodel every woman has to be like. It kills us. It kills us not because we actually want to look like them, but because we feel that if we don't look like them, we won't be accepted. We as women want someone to love us, to accept us, and to appreciate us. We want to be told we're beautiful, we're accepted, we're loved. But the only way we can get that is to prove ourselves to young men, to the world, and to ourselves. It kills us not to have that admiration and respect that we so crave and long for. It kills us every time we go to the check-out stands, and see those doe-eyed women on the magazine covers titled, "Lose 6 lbs in one week!" or "How to get that flat belly by Memorial Day!"

         It has been a battle for women for many, many years. Back in the days of Mary Slessor, it was considered beautiful in Africa to literally be obese. You were considered ugly if you were slim and toned. Now, it's the exact opposite. It's so sad to see women today who desire value and worth and try to achieve them by trying their utmost hardest to meet the toothpick-thin expectations of Hollywood. It's not right. You are FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY made by the Most High God, are loved by Him so much, and NO culture, NO magazine article, NO number on the scale can ever change that. Ever.


         Now, I'm *not* saying that it's wrong to eat well or exercise or to lose weight. Within themselves. In fact, I think it's important to strive to be healthy. However, if you're doing it to gain the approval of the world...then there's a problem. If you're doing it to impress your friends, or a certain young man, I just wanna let you know, that if they really were your friends, or if he truly loved you, you wouldn't *have* to impress them. Your friends would already accept you for who you are, not for how thin you are. That guy would truly love you without you having to look like someone you aren't. And if they don't...that's their problem, not yours.


          We need to see ourselves how God sees us, not how man sees us.

          Is anyone with me?